More things came in today hehehe #fukawa #danganronpa #genocidersyo #danganronpaspoilers #drspoilers #spoilers #cosplay
Just a reminder that I have a facebook page for my cosplay and photoshoot information! c:
Boom. #homestuck #mindfang #cosplay #homestuckcosplay #vriska #leatherwork
Today is apparently #cosplay day. Made the mold I’m going to make my #ruby prosthetic from #rubyquest
Testing out if I wanted to go literal with Celestia’s porcelain white skin so I threw on some color matched clothes, I like the look! #danganronpa #celestia #cosplay
I keep forgetting to tag things so reposting this again, but i’m very honored to have been chosen to be a cosplay guest at FAN:dom Con Year 4!!! I’m really excited to host a bunch of panels on cosplay and judge my first costume contest c:
Recently I got this in my ask, so I decided to address it in a post that could be reblogged.
First of all, ive made a lot of friends in the past year. But I didn’t look at their cosplays online and go “Yes. Yes they are worth of my friendship.” and they didn’t look at my cosplays online and go “Yes. Yes we can let her into the club.” There was no secret ceremony. Popular cosplayers don’t have letterman jackets. They don’t induct you into a club and then brand your ass with the letters BNF. You want to know how I got my “popular” cosplayer friends? I met them at conventions and through mutual friends like I do every other friend I make. Not only that, but a bunch of the friends I have now who are considered “popular” like Mur, Marissa, Mira, Alex, I all knew before their cosplays became somewhat well known. Not to mention all the friends I have that don’t even cosplay which is a majority of them. I don’t spend all my time at cons, you know. Cosplay does not take up the entirety of my life although admittedly it takes up most of it. I don’t pick and choose my friends based on if they cosplay or not.
I feel like people think that good cosplayers only hang out with good cosplayers, which is hugely false. But what is true is that good cosplayers do enjoy the work of other good cosplayers. Much like how artists attract each other and want to do collaborations based on mutual respect of each other’s work, cosplayers will find themselves drawn to other cosplayers who’s work they respect, and a lot of times they become friends or do photoshoots together through that. But that doesn’t mean that those cosplayers will refuse to hang out, talk to, or become friends with people who’s skill levels are below theirs or people who don’t cosplay at all.
But it’s not just that. I think a lot of people don’t realize how much attention comes with being “popular” or what the fandom calls a BNF. I say the fandom calls because I don’t know a single person who looks at themselves and goes, “yeah, i’m totally a BNF” it’s sort of a title thrust upon you. I actually get really awkward when people say i’m one.
Let me put it to you this way. I average around 15 asks a day and that’s incredibly mild compared to a lot of friends I have who can get anywhere from 30 to 50. Those asks are a mix of people saying they like my work (which always get a response with appreciation and thanks because to take time out of your day to pay a compliment is a very nice thing to do), people asking for tutorials or cosplay help, and shit like this. When I go to conventions, I get a whole range of people who come up to me. I get very lovely and polite people who say they like my cosplay or they’ve seen my work, who ask for hugs, who ask for pictures, and they’re very nice! I always make sure to take a little bit of time at least to talk to them and most of the time emphasize how fucking cute they are because they’re all so cute jesus christ. But I also get people who will run up and lift me off the ground. I also get people who will be really creepy about it. Ive been tackled to the ground twice at cons before. I get people who will send me weird creepy shit, and all that’s just a side effect of being known by a lot of people.
Friends become friends because they have something they can talk about together and relate to each other with. Things like that, above, never happened to me before I got on the radar, so to speak. So when I start to make friends with other “popular” cosplayers as you put it, we have things in common to talk about. Things that only people in our shoes can sort of understand. Most of the friends I have that are popular or labeled as BNFs have had the creepers, have had the stalkers, and have had people like you, who show up for really no reason and shit on them just because they get notes on their cosplay photos. They’ve been talked about on CGL. They’ve been gossiped about behind their backs. Most of them offer cosplay commissions and can bond over how few people actually expect or accept the price of labor, or jack their commission prices and use them as their own.
There’s a mutual understanding there, because frankly, all of that can get stressful. Between knowing that there are people who may be pretending to be your friends (I can straight up tell you 5 people in Florida right now who I know for a fact only try to talk to me because i’m “popular”) in order to gain things from you, to knowing that there are always people talking about you behind your back, being a “BNF” can stress people out to the point of quitting cosplay or leaving social media sites.
So, between all that ive just said, it’s no wonder that popular cosplayers attract each other. And i’m not going to deny that they do.
But you need to stop acting like you know their lives and you know them. You know who I hung out with this weekend? A group of absolutely fantastic people, half of whom didn’t even cosplay. You know what I do on my weekends? I hang out with people I know from school, who don’t cosplay. Ive got friends from conventions down here who are just now learning the basics of sewing, and i’m happy to go over to their place and help them out with projects. Frankly, you don’t know my life anon.
Just because popular cosplayers hang out and are friends with other popular cosplayers doesn’t make them cosplay snobs, it doesn’t make them elitist, and it doesn’t make them mean. They’re people who have friends with common interests.
Get over it.
God my God Tier Kurloz photos back from Katsucon. Still a little mad that I didn’t have my blind contacts in yet but oh well.